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I used to watch her movies when I was a kid and indeed, she was one of Hollywood’s leading actresses, known for movies like Changeling and Salt and for her relationship with actor Brad Pitt. Angelina Jolie was one of the greatest actresses that I idolized. Knowing her story through her interview in one of the episodes of The Actor’s Studio touched my heart. She was such a beautiful and passionate woman on the inside and out. I’m glad I’ve heard her story because it’s definitely inspirational.

Imagine your life through the eyes of Angelina Jolie, abandoned when she was about 6 months old by her father, Jon Voight. Her mother, Marcheline Bertrand was forced to give up her dream of being an actress to become a full time mom to her children. Both of her parents were in love with film making. The relationship between father and daughter was a difficult one as the couple Jon Voight and Marcheline Bertrand divorced at 1978.

Jolie’s teen years were difficult and dark When she was 14 years old, she went to a period that when she feel trapped, she would cut herself because it felt like she was releasing something and she wanted to disappear. the cutting was honest for her, and she tells her past so honestly and relaxing. Unlike other children, she had her own different dream and that is to be a “Funeral Director”. It is not that surprising that she has an interest in mortuary science. In the interview, she also said that she also has a lot of weird collections such as her tattoos and knives collection. I know that it is not usual for us to have those collections, but she is a type of person who is strong and compassionate in everything that she does. The work she does to raise awareness for global issues is incredible (huge respect for her).

A Friend

Hey there! 😊 It’s been a month since I haven’t posted a blog, it has been a busy week for us students because of exams and we have to meet the deadlines of our projects. So, last week we had a very interesting topic in our class which all of us can relate to. It tackles about different kinds of relationships and it includes “friendship”. It made me realized how lucky I am to have a set of friends who loves me. (Thank you, Sir! 😊)

F. R. I. E. N. D.

Well, in this world, friendship is one of the most important things in our lives. Sometimes, we cannot live without friends. Friends are your second family; they are ones who makes you happy. Having a friend who will always be there for you is one of the best things that you could ever have in your life. In times of trouble or problems that you are facing, you can tell a friend and he or she might help you and give you some advices. You need a person to make you feel that you are loved. All we want is a friend who is loyal, trustworthy, loving, caring, and understanding. These are the qualities that I look for in a friend. I remember, I’ve been betrayed by some people whom I used to call “friends”, there came a time that I realized that it is indeed hard to find a true friend. It’s sad, but it’s part of our life, every experience has a learning. I just can’t afford to treat them like how they treat me, because surely, they would hate me. I still care for them. Sometimes, I asked myself “When will I ever find a loyal friend?”, lain guid ya kung may ara. The word loyalty means a lot to me. It can be define in different things to different people, but mostly through the tender acts of being there even when sometimes you don’t want to be, or maybe listening to someone just because you know a friend has your best interest at heart. It is easy to find a friend, but hard to find the one who understands you and most especially, the one who is being true to to you. There are many ways to value quality of a true friend. Personally, I value three qualities of a true friend. A true friend is a kind of person who is difficult to find. He or she is a person who cries or has fun with you. Being fun and sharing your friend’s interest. Having a good time with your friends over the years creates memories that last you a lifetime. A true friend should be able to keep secrets and promises. Even though, it is hard to find a true friend, I’m still happy because it made me realize that good friends come in all forms, and that is my FAMILY. 😊

F R I E N D S H I P 👍

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“F” is for Fun – That friends share when they are together.

“R” is for Reliability – A true friend is someone that you can always
rely on.

“I” is for Interest – Someone who is genuinely interested in you,
your fears, joys, and life.

“E” is for Energy – They pick you up when you are down, and give
you the energy to go on and believe in yourself.

“N” is for Nothing – Nothing is ever too much, no matter what time
it is, night or day.

“D” is for Distance – Although the miles may separate you, a true
friend is never far away.

“S” is for Secrets – Your feelings and personal/private thoughts
that you can only share with a friend.

“H” is for Happiness – The way I feel when we are together.

“I” is for Inseparable – Through good times and bad, tears and
laughter. A friend will always be there for you.

“P” is for Perfect – The friendship

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My Short Story (E-Prime)

In the year 1995, on the 13^th day of May, in a warm-sunny day in Dubai, a baby girl named Laureen finally had seen the world and feels the touched of her mother. She stayed there for four and a half years with her parents and later came back to the Philippines for her education. (Hi! :)) The beginning of my story starts at this part.

 As I grew up, experiences taught me a few things that I could apply in my life and even made me stronger at difficult times. Sad but true, I grew up in a family where work and studies became obstacles in the family togetherness; therefore, the opportunity to reunite at least once a year became something momentous for me. My brother resides now in Manila, taking up dentistry in the prestigious University of the East. Because of his education, only holidays enabled him to visit La Carlota and spend time with the family. Both of my parents work in Dubai, but fortunately, my father made up a decision to go back home and work here as a city official.

Reminiscing my carefree elementary and high school days, I spent my summer vacations in Manila so as to create bonds with my cousins in my mother’s side of the family. We always go to Cabangan, Zambales to visit my lola. I considered that place as a peaceful sanctuary, where inhabitants lived a life of simplicity and conservatism. I use to accompany my lola in her office in the other town where I made her office my own playground (makulit na bata haha!:D). How I miss those times when my cousins and I used to play but with time passing by so fast, we all grew up and most of them have their own careers.

A one hour travel time from where I live in could take me to the City of Smiles. Currently studying Mass Communications in one of Bacolod’s respected colleges, the University of Saint La Salle, I noticed a series of contrasting transitions when I became an official college student. The college dimension, in my innocent eyes, seemed like a strange world. But the unfamiliarity of everything gradually changed when I engaged with my fellow classmates. These unforgettable friends, equipped with a lot of craziness, never fail to make me laugh. Known as the “MassComm peeps”, their creativity, friendliness, humor, confidence and optimism made me feel comfortable. We love to go to the mall, watch movies, study together and eat like a monster (✌) in our vacants.

Life to me meant family and friends whom you can trust and who trusts you. Even though, I encountered misinterpretations from unexpected people, I stayed pretty much on the happy side of life. I took every challenge that I encounter positively, but like all teens I do have my “days of” it means I do have some bad or sad days. I have a few friends here that sort of look out for me and when I am having a bad day, I have someone here at school to talk to. 🙂

Language Development

Language is a gift. It includes how to make words, how to put them together, what words mean and what word combinations are best in situations. But according to research there is o exact time when language begun. With the use of language, we are able to express our feelings.

In developing on how I speak, there are people who influenced me. First is my parents, they are the first one who taught me how to pronounce “a, e, i, o, u” (vowels). Learning starts at home. And if you can still see it in other parents when they communicate to a baby, they usually do the “baby talk”. By this, they are able to get the attention of the baby. Second are my relatives, of course as a kid, when we learn something from others, we usually share it to our parents. A relative somehow supports our parents in teaching us something new. Third are my teachers, they are the ones who teaches us how to read and write consonants, vowels, numbers, and teach them how to read simple words. Teachers who taught us how to read are a big part of our language development.

As we grow up, being educated is necessary. We learn things and develop our knowledge. Lastly are the people who are around us. Friends, strangers, and other people who are around us somehow influenced our language development. When we deal with these people, we tend to act the way how we are being treated, but when we are the first one who approaches them, we always do the “pakumbaba” which helps. In college, I experienced doing EPIP, it was one of the things that helps me how to pronounce those words that were given. As a media practitioner, we are taught some things that can really develop our skills not just in writing but also in speaking, which is a big help when we are interacting with different people.

In this activity I learned that language is dynamic. It defines our culture and how unique we are in our own way. Just because we have a different accent from others, it doesn’t mean that we are wrong. All we have to do is understand each other in order for us to avoid miscommunication. 🙂

Gender Differences in Communication

Communication always depends on the relationship between two or more people who are communicating, and has a common basic between them. Styles in communication had always been different between men and women. Since childhood, our parents use a soft caress voice to girls and show more facial disapproval, while in talking to the boys, they use to be more aggressive in physical play and usually talk with a loud voice.

The treatment in communication between men and women are different because men tend to be masculine and rarely showing emotion, unlike women who is more sensitive and often shows an emotion when they talk. If a man is talking to a woman, there is a chance that there can be a conflict, because they both have different perceptions. And it may affect their communication.

When a man talks to a woman and the woman notices that a man has a similarity to a girl when he communicates, usually the first thought that comes into a girl’s mind is “Is he gay?” which is not good. Well, in this case, a man is not aware in his actions. When men are communicating they come into the conversation looking for a solution to the problem. Unlike men, women are not the problem solvers, because they are more emotional and sensitive when it comes to communication. Women relate more to the emotions of the issues. Men may have the same similarities with women, but they are never the same. There are differences the way men and women speak.

In the way that men and women communicate is that man use language to compete and woman uses language to connect. In other words, men uses language to rapport and women uses language to build rapport. When you are talking in an opposite gender, it is like talking to a person in the other world, it may lead to miscommunication. So, the only key to somehow prevent this is to understand each other, because no two persons are the same.

Listening

If you communicate with others, you are dealing with different perceptions. As a person who is talking, it is a responsibility to talk clearly, because when you talk about something to them, there is always a possibility that one of them might not understand you. It may sound very obvious but one of the obstacles of listening for many people is resisting the impulse thoughts.  In that case, you must be patient, deliver the message well, and make it clear for them to understand.

 In our life, listening is very important. It provides good things for us people and makes us have a better life in terms of business, and helping each student in school to learn more, etc. When you communicate to other people, it depends on the sense of hearing. Typing and writing are usually an example of visual communication. When you type or write, you are still using the language that most of us learned by hearing.

Listening is different from hearing. It entails understanding and perceiving the message that was heard. Therefore, listening is essential part of communication and a process which a person understands, analyzes, and interprets the information received through the use of hearing. There are many situations in listening like: In school, it is where we commonly learned things with the used of listening. It is important for the students. A student needs to listen to his or her teacher by the time they teach. But most of the time, it is a common problem of a student to understand the lesson. They sometimes find it hard because it is confusing. They might be confused of the numbers or words that are given. That is why, they always come up with questions like, “how?”, “what is the meaning of …?”, etc. Students could compare their own opinion with the teacher, learn some new things, or go deeper in the subject.

Being a good listener not just helps you in solving but also to see point of views from others. It widens your understanding and helps you to learn many things.

 

 

Hiding behind a Mask

“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.”
― Jim Morrison

How much of you is the real you?

So many people don’t appreciate how great they are, because they always try to be better than the other person. If you are one of those people, I tell you to please stop and look at yourself. We usually found good looking with a good lifestyle people in watching some shows in your television, reading magazines, and passing a by a billboard and seeing a perfect look of a man or a woman. You can almost say that celebrities and models have a perfect look, size, and lifestyle. And you always have a dream to be like them. In watching these videos ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYhCn0jf46U http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_I17cK1ltY&feature=youtu.be) it can prove that, what you are thinking is not true. All of must not be insecure in our own self. It’s media, they make everything nice before they publish it.

In today’s generation, the media has affected everyone. There is a negative impact of media in girls, boys, women and men. Advertisements that were shown in our televisions somehow tell us that we and our lives are imperfect. Magazines, models, celebrities, and TV personalities whom we give our attention because of their looks, lifestyles, and wealth. We always think that they have a perfect look and life, and we want to be like them. The belief that we should imitate them rather than supporting our real love for ourselves. This has made it difficult for us to feel self-assured with whom we really are. We suffer terribly from comparing ourselves to others. It gives pressure to each and everyone because they want to also have a good impression to others.

You might think that you are ugly and not the prettiest/handsome or let’s say the not popular, but you have an inner beauty that you can be proud of. All of us have that. People are always caught in having and doing things which are latest. And they always end up imitating someone, and the worst thing is that they are loosing themselves. Sad, but true. It’s like competing with yourself, you’re becoming bitter instead of being better.

In our lives, we experience judgements from other people. Judgements that you hate because it hurts, and you want to change it by changing and proving that you’re better than them. By this reason, consciousness always occur on how you act to be nice in every impression that you are giving them. It would cause a stress if you just listen to others. So, learn to listen to yourself. It would be more peaceful for you if you do not think  what you’re going to where or how you look on others. Imagine what would it be if you would just take a step back and realize that you are perfect in your own way.

Indeed, we all want to be accepted by others, we want to meet their expectation on us. But if you want others to accept you, you must learn how to accept yourself first. Never be shy, because it is you inner beauty that you can be proud of.

 

Dreams to Reality

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

~Eleanor Roosevelt

= D R E A M S =

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Dream is not about putting a bookmark where you pause the reality from rolling whenever nightmare appears and hope for the best. It is about keeping the pages roll and enjoy its ups & downs and at the end of the day all the pain you have gone through will give you a soft pillow at night because you understand that it’ll be paid off soon when your dream turn into reality.

Every soul that live has a dream to be fulfilled; to be a successful individual; to travel the whole world with love ones; to have a big house and experience the luxury that life could offer. We dream to be satisfied. We dream to be the Cinderella of our own fairy tale who turned out to be a princess after all the criticism and hardship. In the depth of our sleep we dream our own definition of a perfect and convenient life. It is our vision for our future where nobody can stop us from imagining so. These dreams will only come true if we work hard without fearing failure.

When I was a kid day dreaming was the most over used hobby I could never get tired to do. I used to stand in front of the mirror with my head held high and pretend to be a superstar rocking my grandma’s classic hair brush. I would close my eyes like I hardly see my audience watching me dancing & hear their deafening applaud. That’s what I want to be. A performer.

As time goes by and the more I see the reality I realized one thing: I want to explore the world and expose whatever I see – as a Journalist and a Travel Photographer. Apparently, my interests were no longer at the same ground, but it doesn’t mean that I’m a person of no focus. Changes happen so as interest and motivation. The desire to be on a television like Korina Sanchez, and Noli de Castro or even Oprah is quite ambitious but never promised a disappointment because it is attainable for sure. Tewfic El-Sawy & Ken Kaminesky’s photographs have awakened my childhood dream of going to places to present interest.

Everybody has a very creative and unstoppable imagination. We have to undergo some hammering and melting of iron to create a key to a box where all our dreams were being kept. We dream to succeed, yet some people also dream to destroy what we want to happen to our lives.Criticism and under estimating were my vultures. I have to admit that it happened a lot of times already where I see myself into brink of giving up provoked by critics and their own opinions.

Not until I woke up one morning and started to worry for my assignment and struggles to meet project deadlines. I just realized I am already at my sophie year and just a few years closer to my dream as a Media Anchor. I was about to absorb the realization when my camera caught my attention and suddenly a slap on my dream rammed me really hard! Oh God, I’m living my dream already. I just can’t help it, I screamed for joy and was able to enjoy the pressure at school.

Dreams are sometimes we never realized we wanted in life. We lose hopes whenever we meet discouragements, criticism and under estimating. Are we supposed to entertain those? We must still be wearing native G-strings and curving on barks if people were discouraged to dream during their yesterdays. You’ll never know how far you can go if you’ll let the discouragement swallow your own opinion for yourself. Never be contented of dreaming, be a dream-maker.

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Cultural Ethnocentrism

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My view of Cultural Ethnocentrism is barely negative in our society. Judging other cultures by its standards, values, and always think that one’s culture is the best is almost a same thing. Being judged by your friends and classmates hurts, but imagine how it feels to be judge by a lot of people by just knowing what your culture is. Painful it is. There might be other people who believe that they’re better than others. Well that’s what they believed, maybe because they thought about their rich heritage. We tend to be defensive, but all we have to do is be quiet even though it already hurts on our part, just to avoid chaos. In this generation, we can not avoid to judge and to be judge by others. We always think that we have the best values among others, but here is a thing, how can we say that our culture is the best? Can we say it without judging? If given a positive perspective, it might give us a wide understanding to respect each culture, and learn different norms. Because being different is not a matter of argument, but a chance to show respect and acceptance of one’s culture.

Last Friday during our Interpersonal Communication subject, I felt like I’m in a different world: new classmates, new environment, and new section. Like other races, class sections are also compared with each other. When you belong to an A Class, you are considered as a  smart student, talented, and creative while in B Class, only few of the students acquire these characteristics. But, is it really true? I don’t think so. The truth is, section does not define you as a student, your grades and performances does.

Our teacher showed us a video which touched our hearts and made us realized how good our life is without all the bad things that we are doing.

(Please watch this video)

The content of the video says everything that needs to said in the world. With all the judgements that I have done, I asked myself, “Where is the Love?”. We are born to love but we live with hate. Why judge people by their race, religion, language, gender, and class? The world needs love not hate. We are not perfect. We must understand and respect each other.